Playing hide and seek isn’t just a game the kids play. As adults we play it every day.
In Hide and Seek, one’s role is to seek out others in their hidden places, the other role is to hide as quickly and as quietly as possible. The aim of the hider is to resist being found as long as possible; the aim of the seeker is to find all those who are hidden as quickly as possible. Both roles require strategy and focus.
One role is active, the other role seems passive. But in performing these roles, each person is choosing and acting.
We tend to switch roles so everyone gets a turn. Seekers hide and hiders seek.
But some have a preference for seeking and others have a preference for hiding.
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Each of us take on the roles of hider and seeker in our every day lives. At any point, we are desperately trying to keep things under cover — how we really feel, what we truly believe, who we really are. We can’t be found out. Yet at the same time, we are all yearning to be seen and understood. We all want that hidden treasure of love and presence within us to be discovered with delight.
If you hide too well — especially if you find yourself in a small, cramped and dark spot — you will eventually get bored and lonely. You’ll want to come out eventually, even if no one comes to find you. You’ll want to be able to be your energetic and active self again.
Sometimes someone will shout “game over” if you’re really good at hiding and you end up being the last one. But you fear they will forget the announcement and just go on home, and you will be hiding forever not knowing if anyone is still looking for you.
If you don’t hide well enough, the game isn’t fun for the seeker and you have to wait around for everyone else to be found anyway.
If you choose the role of seeker, your enjoyment comes from the investigation and the delight at finding someone crouched in a non-obvious place. The better hidden, the more interesting the game. If it’s too easy, it becomes boring for you.
When we take on the seeker role as adults, we tend to seek meaning, connection, intimacy, and truth. We may look for it in our relationships, in our work, or in our spirituality. We are constantly sending out tendrils of curiosity — will someone join the game with us? Is there adventure to be had?
In the traditional game, the more people you have to find, the more fun you have. If you only had one person to find, the game would be over quickly.
The act of seeking in itself becomes exciting and entertaining. It needs something to be found, or else there is no objective. Once you find one clue, you have to go on to the next.
What would happen to the game if one of the roles were not chosen? The hiders refused to hide, or the seekers refused to seek.
What if nothing about us were hidden? What if we were all purely authentic, everything hanging out for all to see? Complete transparency. Nobody would ever have to guess or assume anything.
No one would ever have to look for anything within us — it would be right there for them to see. We would never have to look for anything in them either.
No waiting, no tension, no false trails, no clues needed.
If nothing about us were hidden, what would happen to the role of seeker? What would happen to the role of hider?
Would all the fun be taken out of the experience? Would we find another game? Could we still enjoy ourselves even without a game?
Would we learn to love the experience of just being?
Leave a comment below and tell us how you identify with being a hider or a seeker in your life right now.
Keep shining the insight light,