I have to admit, I’m nervous about beginning this blog.
There are billions of blogs out there, and many of them have existed for several years. There are blogs on every topic, by every kind of person. Some are fantastic and some are total dreck. Some are meant to inspire and help, and others are meant to get sales and clicks.
There are enough blogs. I’m even tired of hearing the word “blog.” I think the word is kind of stupid. “Blog” sounds like “blergh,” which is a sound I make when I’m frustrated and ambivalent about something.
You, like me, probably read several of them every day — despite your misgivings.
You and I have routines around our blogs. When I was working in an office every day, you’d bet that I’d open up my favourites while sipping the first of three cups of coffee every morning. I still do that and get a bit of a thrill every time there’s something new posted, even if I don’t always like what I read.
I have a confession: I am a consumer
I read and read and read.
I consume reading material like Skittles flying into my mouth at an alarming rate; or like my vacuum consumes hair balls (I have long hair that sheds everywhere).
I consume blogs. I consume culture, news, and academic articles. I consume books. I consume anything in printed format.
I can imagine it’s difficult for any blog writer to keep up with the demand of consumption, especially if the information is light and airy, without much substance or nutrition. We want more and more, all the time.
So, it’s time I give back. And I love writing. So, sans a lucrative book contract, I figured the best way to begin was to write a blog.
But given the current information climate of the internet, could I contribute in a way that is hearty and nutritious? Could my voice be of value? I decided that it could be; that I could contribute as well as consume. I think there is enough information out there (whether real or “fake”); but what I could share was the wisdom I’ve gained throughout my several decades on this planet — as a regular human being and as a mental health professional. The two must mix somehow.
How can I contribute to you?
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor. I provide psychotherapy, counselling and coaching to people struggling with a range of issues. It would make sense that I could potentially convey my passion for personal development and psychology, in a way that could also be healing and helpful to you.
After all, not everyone can or wants to spend lots of time in therapy, especially if there aren’t any serious problems. The development of insight can take years, and is a bit of a luxury these days.
But there are thousands of personal development blogs out there.
There are enough pop psychology and “hack your life” blogs.
What could I convey that would be helpful, meaty, and educational, without necessarily boring you to death with academic, therapeutic modalities?
Well, the development of emotional intelligence fascinates me. Emotional intelligence is a personal foundation which underpins all of our relationships — relationships with ourselves, with our partners, with our friends, with our families, with our colleagues, with our wider communities.
Our experience is defined by our emotions, thoughts, beliefs, actions, and senses. All of these create a dance together. This dance, at best, results in a beautiful and meaningful display; at worst, it results in major discomfort and pain.
If you’re here, then you’re interested too. You might want to understand yourself better, or understand a loved one. You might be struggling with a decision, or wanting to change your life but not knowing where to begin.
Or you might just be deeply interested in what it means to be human.
What do we all have in common?
We need to be heard, loved, and accepted for who we are but most of us feel the opposite at times.
We need to feel safe to speak our pain in order to begin healing it.
We know that our thoughts and beliefs can empower us, or hold us back — but we don’t know how to change them.
We need to know how to hug our inner critic and tell ourselves we’re worthy of good things.
We need to remember to stay connected with our bodies instead of disconnecting with food, substances, overwork, sex, or video games.
We need to love ourselves, and receive love. We need to put ourselves first in order to heal.
We need to reach out to others, instead of hiding because we fear rejection. We need to communicate with love, compassion and empathy instead of communicating from our pain.
So I write this blog in sisterhood and in friendship, with the intention of discussing these issues to promote inner healing and insight.We're not who we were taught to be. We need to look at what shaped us, what is, & what we can be.Click To Tweet
Let’s look at what shaped us (we’re not who we were taught to be).
Let’s look at what is (let’s get emotionally honest and uncover the stories we tell about ourselves).
Let’s look at what we can be (let’s discover who we really are at the soul level).
Aahs and Ah-has
I hope that this site will be a place for what I call “aahs” and “ah-has.”
I want you to feel like this is a safe, calm, and cozy place in the great wide internet realm. I hope we can foster a sense of accepting community, where we can support and help each other in our growth. And if there are a few laughs along the way, all the better!
I wish for all of us to learn something about ourselves every day. Not only will I be teaching, but I also will be a student, learning from all of you and your experiences.
We are instigating something here, you and I. A new start, a fresh beginning.Become an Insight Instigator. Get to know yourself, love your life and pass it on.Click To Tweet
I want to get to know you. Please leave a comment to introduce yourself, and tell us why insight is important to you.
I look forward to this journey together.
Keep shining the insight light,